Your intuition doesn’t care about the status quo. It’s not afraid of upsetting your relationships, standing out, or taking a different path. It doesn’t mean that intuition is a destructive force, but it can be disruptive.
A survey of 5,300 women conducted at the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee found that a lack of female role models, extremely limited opportunities for upward advancement, and career-focused expectations all played a role in women leaving the field. This is culture, not biology at work.
The #1 reason work/life balance is out of reach is because our culture has prioritized status, achievement and certainty over love and contribution, and we bought in. But taking a stand for what matters to you, putting cultural pressures aside, and deciding to live a life that is on purpose, by design, and based in love is the only way it will change.
Men have confided to me about their attempts to navigate the hot button issue of physical contact, personal open-versus-closed door policies, and making sense of old assumptions about men’s and women’s roles in society. They have all leaned on the side of caution, unsure of what will be perceived as harassment or as genuine human contact.
At 17 years old, my response was to adopt what I unconsciously believed to be a “masculine” trait: toughness. I worked hard to appear emotionally unfazed by anything, unreadable, and slightly angry. I was suppressing and hiding what I felt from everyone, including myself. The immediate and long-lasting result was a constant feeling of distance from other people and a pervasive loneliness.
When women are successful in their businesses and in the workplace, it has a downstream effect on a lot of the other negative problems in society. When more women are empowered, more people are going to be lifted out of poverty, children will be more educated. Women reinvest 90% of their income into their families and local communities, and this gets to the heart of other systemic problems.
The other thing about entrepreneurship is somehow it got associated with misery. I don’t know who wrote that in the handbook, but working with my mom is enjoyable. If you’re feeling extreme stress all the time you should reevaluate who you’re working with, what is the goal you’re chasing and why. This has been a great journey and at the end of the day both of us are changed by running this business.